Be a Party Girl

Party girls just want to have fun. They're the confident ladies who know how to party and have a good time. But it's hard to balance the party girl life with keeping your week-day self on track. When you're out partying your hardest, your safety should be just as big a priority as having fun.

Steps

Looking the Part

  1. Wear the right clothes. Party girls always keep their looks on point, no matter how wild their nights get. The basic party girl uniform is a cute dress and a nice pair of heels.
    • Dress in a way that makes you feel comfortable. You want to wear something that's easy to move in and that makes you feel confident.
    • You'll probably be dancing, so you need clothes you can move in. Don't wear clothes that are too tight or restricting.
    • Pack a pair of flats in your purse. Many women in general carry an extra pair of comfortable shoes in their bags,[1] but for party girls they are essential. No matter how skilled you are at dancing in heels, your feet will be hurting by the end of the night. Give them a break.
    • If you must wear pants, make sure they're cute (and preferably tight) and match the dress code of wherever you plan on partying. You don't want the embarrassment of being turned away at the door because your venue of choice has a ban on jeans.
  2. Do your makeup right. The typical party girl wears a lot of makeup. If that's the look you like, go for it. Just make sure to wear makeup with staying power that isn't prone to sweating off. For long-lasting makeup, start with a moisturizing primer and top everything off with a translucent powder.[2]
    • Right now, the party girl look is all about smoky, heavy eye makeup.[3] If you want to follow this trend, pack on the dark eye shadow, eyeliner, and mascara.
  3. Wear your hair for dancing. This means that your hair should be in a manageable style that stays in place. You don't want it coming undone while you dance.
    • If you want to wear your long hair down for part of the night, try pulling it back in a ponytail when you dance.
    • For a classier look, you can also try a bun or some other type of updo. Just make sure your hair is secure before you go out.
    • If it starts to come undone halfway through the night, it's better to just take your hair down completely.
  4. Find your confidence. A party girl will enjoy partying most when she's self-confident and happy with herself. Self-confidence will boost your charisma and make you the life of the party.
    • Build your self-confidence, be confident and develop your self-esteem.
    • Even if you don't feel confident, do your best to pretend. If you aren't naturally outgoing, challenge yourself to change that. If you have a habit of self-deprecation, work on curbing that.
    • Surprisingly, maintaining good posture goes a long way towards boosting confidence. Keep your back straight and your shoulders dropped. Posture like this will have you both looking and feeling more confident than you would slouching.[4]

Going Out

  1. Find the right party. A fun-loving party girl will be discriminating about which parties she chooses to go to. Choose ones you know will be packed. A near-empty house party is no fun. Try to hit up the popular clubs in your city on a regular basis.
  2. Have a squad. Squads, posses, or "girl gangs" are all the rage right now.[5] While you and your friends may not be celebrities, you can always form a hip group of your own. Going out with a large group of other girls makes socializing much easier. When you're with a bunch of friends, you'll always have someone to talk to. Are you self-conscious about getting on the dance floor? Just ask some of your girlfriends to join you!
  3. Arrive fashionably late. If you're going to a party, don't arrive when the invitation says it starts. Ten to twenty minutes later than that is the minimum for looking cool, but holding off for an hour or more may be more appropriate. Regardless, you don't want to be one of the only people there.
    • Peak hours for nightclubs are usually around 11 pm or midnight until closing. This is the window you'll want to arrive during if you want to have a wild time.
    • If you have trouble getting into trendy clubs at peak hours, showing up early may be for the best. That way, when the place fills up you'll already be there and ready to have fun.[6]
  4. Dance all night. If you can't dance, watch the others and copy them. You'll get the hang of it soon enough. Just let the music move you and keep your movements minimal until you feel more confident. If you're already a great dancer, weave lots of dancing into your party nights out. Dancing is liberating, energizing and a good excuse to work around the floor and connect with many people. Dance with your friends or anyone on the floor you'd like to dance with.
  5. Know how to hold your booze. Most party girls are known for their heavy drinking, but this doesn't mean you have to follow suit. If you're drinking, drink just enough to have fun and be a little more outgoing. Don't drink so much that your speech slurs or you have problems staying upright in your heels. Remember this: Vomiting and talking to the wall are neither sexy nor fun.
    • Learn to pace yourself. Alcohol tolerance is different for every person. If you're new to alcohol, it's best to practice with a few friends in a controlled environment like your house. You don't want to find out what your limits are at a crowded, chaotic club. Know when to stop and know when to say no.
    • If you're not drinking, or at least drinking at a slower pace than everyone else, do your best to hide it. Always have a drink in your hand; it just doesn't have to be alcoholic. Instead of sipping water from a cooler cup, have it in a glass, preferably with a slice of lime. This will help you keep from standing out, which may make people pressure you into drinking more than you want to.
    • Consider caffeine instead. Energy drinks are popular in the party scene and will help you to keep dancing all night.[7] However, don't overdo them, since they tend to be loaded with sugar.

Socializing

  1. Learn how to introduce yourself. If you're looking to make new friends or find a special someone, partying can be a good way to meet new people. Don't be afraid to talk to random strangers in a club. Most people are there to socialize.
  2. Practice small talk. When you're out having a good time, you'll be meeting a lot of new people. Small talk lets you break the ice with someone you'd like to know better. It's also a great way to pass time when there's a long line for the bathroom. Some topics that make good small talk include:
    • Your opinion about the music the DJ is playing.
    • How the other person found out about the venue or knows the host.
    • What you plan on doing for an upcoming holiday, or how you spent a recent one.
    • Compliment some aspect of the other person's outfit.
  3. Network. Make yourself the indispensable go-to girl for news, information, shared friends and help. Exchange numbers and business cards with people you meet.
    • Find the VIPs and the well-connected in your circle. Make it your goal to become known to them and spend time sharing news and ideas with them.
  4. Have some fun with the party boys. However, be careful about who you get to know intimately. Clubs can be great places to meet people, but they don't always attract a reputable crowd.
    • Do not ever make out with a friend's date. This is a grave violation of the girl code.
    • Avoid the bad boys. They aren't worth the trouble.
    • Never get drunk to build up the courage to find someone. Your drunk self has extremely poor taste and isn't likely to know what's best for you.
    • If you already have a boyfriend, don't ruin things by making out with someone else. It's perfectly fine to party without him while in a relationship. Just don't break his trust.
  5. Leave the party when the time is right. You don't want to close down an empty bar. When you see the crowd start to thin, it's a good idea to bail. Be sure to say goodbye to everyone you've spent time with. Before you leave, make sure you have the contact information of anyone you'd like to hang out with more. The worst feeling is meeting someone great only realizing the next day that you forgot to exchange numbers.

Staying Safe

  1. Party with friends. Your squad is there to help you have fun, but being part of the group also means looking out for one another. Watch each other's backs and drinks.
    • When a girlfriend starts to get a little too drunk, cut her off. She may be upset with you, but she'll thank you in the morning.
    • If a creepy guy won't leave your girlfriend alone, tell him to take a hike.
    • Make sure each of you gets home safely when the night is over. If you live in a place without good public transportation, having a designated driver can literally save your life.
  2. Practice safe sex. Party girls are all about fun. Sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies are decidedly not fun. Making out with a guy you just met can be fun, but be careful who you decide to sleep with.
    • Always make sure your partner wears a condom. Be sure that it's not a "natural" or "lambskin" condom, as these do not protect against HIV.
    • Remember that sex always carries some risk. Condoms can always break. There is no such thing as completely safe sex, only safer sex.[8]
  3. Drink responsibly. Most party girls drink alcohol as part of having fun, but you shouldn't overdo it. Don't drink past your limits. You don't want a fun night on the town to ruin your health.
    • Avoid drinking if you are under the legal age to buy alcohol. Don't give in to peer pressure even if all of your friends drink.
    • Never drive drunk.
  4. Don't do illegal drugs. Drugs can be a big part of many party scenes, and some party girls like to partake. These substances can be harmful by themselves[9], but they may also include unknown and deadly impurities. Don't take any pills offered to you at a party.

Maintaining the Lifestyle

  1. Have a good source of income. Party clothes, club covers, alcohol, and cabs home get expensive. Many famous party girls are actresses and heiresses. You may not need that kind of money, but you'll still need to make a decent living.
    • Be sure to work in a profession that meshes well with partying. If you're a doctor or nurse, you can't party while you're on-call.
    • Likewise, don't let partying sink your career. Don't go out partying all night when you have an important meeting in the morning.
  2. Be kind to your bartenders. Not only will these people be responsible for preparing your fancy drinks, they'll be good allies in helping you meet more people and stay in touch with the "people who matter."
    • Tip well. Nothing spreads a bad reputation like being a cheap party girl. Make sure if someone is buying for you, that they also tip well. Bad tipping can make you guilty by association. If you're with a bad tipper, throw in some extra cash if you can.
  3. Don't overdo the partying. A party girl needs her beauty sleep to be refreshed for the rest of her life - and the next party. As with all good things, they come to end and a successful party girl knows when to call it quits. Don't let too much partying ruin your health.

Tips

  • Attitude is everything. Be you, only more outgoing and friendly. Put the shy feelings behind you and introduce yourself to everyone.
  • Notice if someone is having a hard time. That girl vomiting in the corner? Get her a taxi home immediately. That just-dumped guy crying softly behind the potted plant? Console him and offer a tissue.
  • If you think someone lonely, make friends with them. Don't plan on being his or her buddy for the evening, but make sure that person feels valued.

Warnings

  • Never drink and drive! If you have no ride home and others have been drinking, make sure you don't drive or get in the car with a drunk person driving. Instead, call a cab or stay with a friend..
  • Don't do drugs. By all means take your headache tablet if your migraine is coming on, but that's your limit.
  • If you're drinking, cover your drink at all times! You don't want anyone to slip something in your drink. If you're a familiar in the club scene the staff will watch out for you, but you must still be cautious.

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Sources and Citations

  1. ↑ http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2049056/1-3-women-carry-comfortable-shoes-handbag-high-heels-bite.html
  2. ↑ http://www.webmd.com/beauty/makeup/lasting
  3. ↑ http://www.bustle.com/articles/44130-6-feelings-only-ex-party-girls-can-truly-understand
  4. ↑ http://www.oprah.com/spirit/Charisma-and-Self-Confidence-Martha-Becks-Strategy
  5. ↑ https://www.yahoo.com/style/why-were-obsessed-with-girl-gangs-right-now-122196841438.html
  6. ↑ http://www.laweekly.com/best-of/2014/bars-and-clubs/best-time-to-go-to-a-trendy-club-5106457
  7. ↑ http://thoughtcatalog.com/jessica-ann-daley/2012/08/party-girls-guide-to-being-sober/
  8. ↑ http://womenshealth.gov/hiv-aids/preventing-hiv-infection/practice-safer-sex.html
  9. ↑ http://www.healthyhorns.utexas.edu/partydrugs.html
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