Impress a Girl Who's Way out of Your League
So she's beautiful, smart, talented, and seems almost superhuman. And you trip over your feet, spit milk out of your nose, and live in a shack by the river. Here's your guide to getting that girl who seems way out of your league.
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Steps
- Be a gentleman. Don't pretend to be jerk so that you can impress her. Both lying about your true self and being rude will put distance between you and the girl.
- However, don't be afraid to tease her a bit. Once you've talked a few times, most girls will be comfortable with you making a few lighthearted jokes at her expense (as long as it's a two way street and she can do the same to you). It shows that you're confident enough in yourself to make a small gamble that she could be offended. If she takes a joke seriously and is offended, just apologize calmly and let her know you were only kidding.
- Figure out your intentions. First, ask yourself why you want to impress this girl. Is it because she is the most popular girl in school, or because you truly enjoy her company?
- Get close. Hang out near her and listen to what the girl and her friends are saying. (Don't make it a dead giveaway that you're listening.) Then approach them and say, "I couldn't help over hearing BLAH BLAH BLAH". It should go naturally; if not then perhaps you should rethink this girl. Chemistry matters!
- Develop an excellent sense of humor. Beautiful girls don't look around and see faces as attractive as their own - they see YOUR face and others like it. But they DO appreciate someone who makes them laugh. Be optimistic and cheerful.
- Confidence is key. You've seen people walk around with their heads hanging, shuffling their feet as they walk. They look beaten, unhappy, defeated. That isn't attractive to anyone! If you want to attract a woman who's out of your league, then show her you're confident. Hold your head up, walk like you're proud to be you, delighted with who you are - but not arrogant, maintain eye contact if talking to her. Watch how others walk and carry themselves and try to mimic the confident behaviors you see.
- Leave her wanting more. Don't wait for her to break the conversation off the first few times. Keep conversations short, interesting and active, and then go away. Let her know you have to go (she doesn't need to know why), wish her a good day, and walk away.
- Don't tell her about her looks. Find out what other qualities she has that make her an outstanding woman. Ask her about herself and who she is. Women who are used to being noticed for their outer appearance won't be swayed easily by comments on their physical appearance. Be different and find the inner beauty (you can still admire the outer beauty in your own thoughts).
- But do compliment her. Did she do an awesome job on her speech in history? Let her know, and be genuine. Highlight some parts that you enjoyed or tell her about an article you read on the topic.
- Hide in plain sight. Sometimes, you meet and upon spending a little time with a girl, realize you have very strong feelings for her that you won't be able to hide. Don't. Just keep it light and start hitting on her immediately. If you make a little joke of it and say things like, "She's crazy about me," or "Of course I'm staring at you, you're the girl of my dreams." (wiggles eyebrows up and down suggestively with a big, cheesy smile for her)to her friends while she's standing right there, it will just be part of the way you get along very early on. But careful: if she doesn't giggle or seem amused and a little bit flattered, this will not work and will become tiresome very quickly. Watch for her reaction and adjust.
- Friendly get togethers. Ask her out on a friendly date so you can see how much you guys really have in common. And if she is conceited then you will be grateful you didn't ask her out on a real date.
- Be very cautious to only do the "friendly date" once or twice. If you do it too much, she'll start to look at your relationship as friendship, and this can be a difficult perception to reverse.
Tips
- Hygiene is important. Looking nice makes you feel nice.
- Get to know her friends. If her friends don't like you, she probably won't be as open to spending time with you. Don't be mean to them or pull their hair--there are other ways to get to know a girl! Be in their group when it's time for a class presentation and let your personality shine.
- Don't be tempted to try to be friends first and ease into a relationship later. Although people sometimes go from friendship to romance, it's a lot more difficult to change the context of the relationship after the fact. This is called "the friend zone" and it is not a place you want to be if you have feelings for her. It's ok to start slowly, just maintain a flirtatious attitude so your intent remains clear.
- If she doesn't respond well to flirtatiousness, going the "friends first" route is an option you can consider (some girls are very shy), but know that it is a gamble, and that steering things back to romance later will likely be awkward and unsuccessful. If you had a strong approach and she still didn't seem to respond, she might just not be interested and you should consider moving on.
- Hygiene is very important. Take a shower every day and don't put on a gallon of cologne; it just gives people headaches, and will make girls more inclined to avoid you.
Warnings
- Do not idolize her. It shows a lack of confidence in yourself, and conveys the notion that she is better than you. Give her the occasional compliment once the ball is rolling, but don't overdo it.
- Be honorable. This means: don't deceive her just to get in her pants.
- If she insults you without smiling, then BACK OFF; she doesn't want to be around you. Or, if she pays other guys lots of attention but runs away from you, give her space for awhile, and try to "restart" the relationship. That means evaluating what you might have blown, and starting from scratch after laying low for a few weeks.
- Cheesy pickup lines are an alright tactic if you're confident in yourself, but be prepared for them to laugh and applaud your "joke" before moving on. For a pickup line to work, it has to be funny (and not in a self-deprecating way) and straight to the point (getting the girl's number). Always follow it up with a bit of regular conversation to show her you're not a creep.
