Get a Girl to Notice You

Getting a girl's attention might seem like a daunting task but don't give up just because it feels like she doesn't even know you exist! wikiHow is here to help you capture that special girl's attention--and keep it! Scroll down to Step 1 to find out how you can spark a girl's interest.

Steps

Getting Attention with Your Actions

  1. Get a Girl’s Attention Girls are more likely to talk to a guy if they are not complete strangers. Catch her eye in class and smile, nod at her in the school hallways, or make an effort to sit near her at lunch. Of course, don’t follow her around (that might creep her out) but simply making sure she knows your face will make her more receptive to talking to you at some point.
    • Little things like asking her the date or hanging out at the same after-school spot will make her begin to start noticing you.
  2. Talk to her. While this might seem obvious, lots of guys struggle with the idea of approaching the girl they like. However, you’re just going to have to go for it. Walk up to her before class and strike up a conversation, talk to her in the lunch line, or say hey to her at a party. Make a passing joke about your teacher’s silly tie in math class or ask her what she did this weekend while waiting in line for lunch.
    • Be observant. What does she like to do? Are there any clues that can give you an idea of what she likes? Maybe she is constantly doodling in class, or carrying a soccer ball around. This little things you observe about her can help you to come up with ideas for what to talk to her about.
  3. Find out what she is interested in. To do this, you’ll have to be bold. Once you’ve talked to her a bit, you should start asking her questions about herself. What does she like to do? What movies is she into? What’s her favorite sport, art or food? The possibilities are endless, but the answers will help you to form a friendship. However, keep in mind that you shouldn’t just pummel her with questions (that may be sort of weird) but ask a question and let the conversation develop naturally.
  4. Try to establish a friendship. Once you guys have talked and she knows who you are, consider asking her to hang out. Start by asking her to do something in a group and tell her to bring her friends along (this will make her more inclined to say yes). Ask her to come to the movies with your friends, play a pickup soccer game, go on a hike, go to a concert, etc. When you guys hang out, be attentive to her but not clingy--just act like you would with anyone else in your friend group.
  5. Give her sincere compliments. Everyone likes to complimented now and then--make her day and give her a compliment that you really mean. Its important to say something that you really believe--fake compliments can sound stiff and are easily spotted. If you like her dress, tell her her dress is really cute. If she just played a song for you on the guitar and it was great--tell her that!
  6. Be nice to her friends. No matter what, you should always treat girls with respect--regardless of whether or not they are the one you are interested in. It helps to be extra nice to her friends. If they see you as the caring, sweet, funny guy you are, chances are they will tell the girl you like. However, don’t hang out with her friends (or just one of her friends) all the time--it might give her the idea that you are romantically interested in one of her friends.
  7. Act relaxed and confident when you are around her. Even if your heart lurches weirdly into your mouth, or you start sweating, act as relaxed as you can when hanging out with her, particularly if you don’t want to make a romantic move just yet (or clue her in to the fact that you want something more than friendship). Girls like a confident guy, not someone who becomes a hot mess whenever they approach him. Part of acting relaxed is reminding yourself that you’re a really cool and nice dude--any girl would be lucky to have such a great guy interested in her.
    • Smile like you mean it. A sincere smile is a very attractive thing. If she makes a joke, allow yourself to laugh. When you look at her, or wave bye when walking to class, smile genuinely.
    • Make eye contact. Look your girl in the eye when you guys are talking. Eye contact is a sign of confidence. If you look anywhere but at her face, she might think you are uninterested in her or that you have better things to do besides hang out with her.
  8. Make small romantic moves. Once you have established a friendship and you know that you want to make it something more, start making some romantic gestures that will clue her into the fact that you like her. Remember important dates like her birthday (and do something nice for her on that day), walk her to her next class (and then sprint to yours), or ask her to a dance.

Using Your Sparkling Personality

  1. Show her you have a sense of humor. Everyone loves to laugh. Humor is a great way to get (and keep) a girl’s attention, so long as it is the right sort of humor. While this might not apply to some girls, most girls are generally a little turned off by crude or mean humor. Of course, being funny doesn’t mean that you need to transform yourself into the next Chris Pratt, but throwing some humor into a conversation can definitely catch a girl’s attention. If you’re not a natural-born comedian, here are some tips on creating your style of humor:[1]
    • Don’t wait for the girl to laugh. Quick, witty humor that seems unassuming is a good way to go--if she thinks you’re funny, she’ll laugh. However, never draw attention to the fact if she doesn’t laugh--that will just make the situation awkward, and you a little desperate. (Example: Don’t say something like “Oh so you didn’t think that was funny?”)
    • Find some inspiration in famous comedians. If you feel like you need a little help getting into the comedic mood, watch comedians on TV or pay attention to the funny characters in movies. Watch how they deliver their jokes, but don’t memorize their jokes and simply repeat them (that could come across as rather stiff).
    • Use situational humors. While dishing out witty one-liners can make a girl laugh, try commenting on your situation or environment in a funny way.
    • Don’t pick on the girl you’re interested in. While teasing may be funny at first, don’t rely on it as your only source of humor because that can definitely get old. If you find that teasing is something you’re pretty good at--tease yourself. Self-deprecating humor can be funny and will show the girl that you are confident enough in yourself that you can make fun of your own flaws.
  2. Be confident in yourself. Confidence is a very attractive quality. Feel good about yourself because you are an awesome dude--your inner confidence will shine through and your girl will notice. Walk with your head held high, volunteer interesting information, and don’t hesitate when walking up to the girl you like--just do it. Having confidence also means laughing at yourself and not getting in a huff when the girl you like has other plans or talks to another guy.
    • Being confident does not mean that you should act cocky. There is a fine line between being confident and being a self-involved jerk. When you are confident, you have faith in your abilities without holding that over others. When you’re cocky, you brag about how awesome you are. Avoid the latter. Girls are attractive to guys who are confident without telling everyone around them how great they are, constantly.
  3. Be attentive. When you are talking to the girl you like, give her your undivided attention. Listen carefully to what she has to say--you may learn something you didn’t know about her, or find that you both have mutual interests, dreams, or ideas.
    • Ask her about herself. Not only will this show that you care, it will also give you information you can use to woo her later. Any questions that are sincere and respectfully asked are fair game--find out what movies she likes, what her dreams are, what her favorite meal is, etc.
    • Give her time to answer. Don’t interrupt her a lot when she’s speaking--you asked the question so you should give her time to speak her mind. Plus, the fact that she wants to talk to you is a really good thing--don’t cut it short.
  4. Display good manners. When you’re getting to know a girl, it is important to be polite. After all--a lot of girls feel like chivalry is dead. Show her that this is not the case. Open doors for her, offer to help her carry her stuff, etc. Avoid offensive behavior (sexist/racist/derogatory jokes are definitely off the table--but you shouldn’t be saying that kind of stuff anyway).
  5. Show passion for the things you are interested in. If you are really interested in something, show it. When you throw yourself into something you are really passionate about, it is pretty obvious (and attractive)--it shows that you care about something outside of yourself, and that you are dedicated. Try to be the best you can be--you’re sure to catch you girl’s attention.
    • Don’t be embarrassed about what you are passionate about. If you are enthusiastic, confident, and happy, people will become interested in what you are into (or at least respect your interests). If you are crazy about hiking, pick a hike that is gorgeous (and relatively easy) to take your non-hiking friends (and the girl you like) on--they’ll be sure to have fun.
  6. Let her know that you have emotional depth. This doesn’t mean that you need to sob like a baby when a sad topic gets mentioned, but you should allow some of your feelings to show. This means that you might need to say something like “When I watched The Notebook, I kept thinking about how hard it must be to have a loved one with Alzheimer's. It made me feel so sad for people experiencing that disease”. Saying things like this (and meaning them) will show the girl you like that you have a deeper side.[2]

Paying Attention to Your Appearance

  1. Groom yourself. If you do nothing else, remember this--you should shower regularly and brush your teeth. No girl is going to want to cozy up to a guy who has stuff in his teeth and smells like B.O. Bust out that great-smelling body wash (and deodorant) and start thinking of your toothbrush as your best friend. Of course, there are plenty of other things you can do to get her attention with your well-groomed looks.
    • Going beyond the basics: Find a cologne that will make girls swoon, wash your face so that your skin is blemish free, add a little bit of styling gel to your hair to get that ‘I just got out of bed but I’m so manly that I just look this good all the time’ look--the possibilities are endless. If its going to make you smell good, look good, and feel good, it’s probably something you should try.
    • Considering body hair: Clip that nose hair and pluck that unibrow! If you’re rocking some facial hair, props to you. Just make sure to keep it in check--its generally better to have no beard than a flowing, ‘I’ve just been asleep for 100 years’ Rip Van Winkle look.
    • Clipping your nails: Do it. You don’t want to be thinking about holding her hand, only to cut her with your talons when you make a move. While you’re at it, scrape that dirt out from under there.
  2. Put a little effort into how you dress. This doesn’t mean going out and buying a whole new wardrobe, but you should definitely give your wardrobe some consideration. Ditch any articles of clothing that are stained or torn. Everyone has their own style--but ‘slob’ style is definitely the least attractive. Don’t wear the same shirt every day of the week, and try to put a bit more effort into your outfit instead of just throwing on a sweatshirt and sweatpants.
    • Play up your style. Whether you are a hipster, jock, or have some style all your own, put a little effort into what you wear in the morning.
  3. Consider your body language. Believe it or not, your posture actually plays a big part in how girls perceive you. If you have a tendency to hunch, avoid eye contact and play with your hands, a girl is going to be less inclined to come over and strike up a conversation. Stand up straight, keep your eyes up, and get a smile going--you will look much more approachable.
    • Keep in mind that while you really should have good posture, you should also carry yourself with ease. Standing up straight does not mean walking around like a robot or holding yourself so rigidly that you look like Frankenstein. If you don’t know how to carry yourself with ease, draw inspiration from movies or TV. Watch how the lead guy holds himself (and eventually charms his way into the lead girl’s heart).
  4. Stay in shape. While this does not mean that you have to lift for your life, you should keep in mind that if you want to get that drop dead gorgeous girl to notice you, you’re going to have to keep your physique in mind. She puts effort into her looks, so you should too. Start an exercise routine that combines both cardio and weight-training for an all around toned look.
    • Keep in mind that most girls like a guy who looks fit, but not one that has muscles that are about to rip through his t-shirt every time he raises his arm in class. If your goal is to look like Arnold Schwarzenegger when he was Mr. Universe, you may want to tone it back a bit.

Tips

  • Girls like when guys talk to them. They like a guy who makes an effort, who shows an interest, who is basically just friendly and nice.
  • If she does find out you like her, or even if you think she might know, don't stress out! Most, if not all, girls are flattered when a guy likes her. She might even start liking you back.
  • Let her see the real you. Don't be ashamed of who you are.
  • Even if she's with a group of her friends, don't worry. The girl you like is not going to tell you to go away or be rude. And if she does, then she's just not the right girl for you.
  • If she already thinks you're a jerk BE NICE and change her opinion of you.
  • Make an effort to talk to her everyday at school. Even a simple "hi" or "how are you today?" will do the trick.
  • If she plays a sport, show up, it lets her know you care. Just make sure shes into you first.
  • If both of you have a Tumblr or Facebook or some other social networking site, then comment on her profile. Comment on her pics or videos and message her about something you both like.
  • Join clubs that she is in, especially if you share common interests.
  • Follow her on Instagram or friend her on Facebook that will get you in her mind..
  • If she's into a particular thing like a band or book series, find out what she likes about them. If you want, you could try getting into it yourself. Having common interests is something you need.
  • DO NOT flirt with other girls! Big no no!
  • Remember, girls are a lot more subtle than guys. We can pick up things like tension when guys can't. I don't know why, we just do. But we do pay a lot of attention to these things, so try using subtle hints.
  • Saying that you think she's hot straight away will only creep her out.
  • Though girls in books and movies always go for the mysterious heroes, in real life they go for their best friend. Make sure that you are really close, have common interests, are very comfortable around each other, and can make each other laugh.
  • Girls really like the geeky, sweet, gentlemanly boys believe it or not. So don't be afraid to show your geeky side!
  • If you completely obsess over a show or book, don't hide it! She might like it too!
  • When the time comes, don't be afraid to tell her that you like her. Girls would want you be honest and straight forward rather than play a guessing game.
  • Be yourself.
  • Give her some hints that you might be interested in her and she might as well be interested in you.
  • Girls really like a guy who makes them giggle and blush. So when you are having a typical conversation, it is okay to be sarcastic.
  • If a girl is shy, try to be friends with her. If you are not sure she likes you, try talking to one of her friends to see. Do not act in such a manner that would come across as looking desperate for her attention.
  • Don't constantly follow her around, as this will creep her out, so just be cool.
  • Talk to her. Don't be nervous! Even just leaving your friends to talk and walk with her, will make her day.
  • Be funny, but don't try to hard. It will make you seem desperate.

Warnings

  • If she doesn't like something you're doing, stop. It's not funny, it's annoying.
  • If the girl doesn't like you, and shows it, don't keep pestering her or she'll come to hate you.
  • Be careful when playing games, while girls like a little mystery, it frustrates them to no end.
  • Don't stare at her breasts/other ares that might make her uncomfortable. It's creepy.
  • It's OK to like a couple of her Facebook pictures etc., but make sure you don't like too many (especially old ones) unless you already know her well, or you will come across as creepy and it will scare her away.
  • There is a chance she may not like you at all. This will hurt, but you will get over it and find someone new.

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Sources and Citations

  1. ↑ http://www.lovepanky.com/men/dating-women-tips-for-men/how-to-make-a-girl-laugh
  2. ↑ http://brobible.com/guyism/article/things-women-want-man-personality/#page/3
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